A brief story...with a moral at the end
I've been training dogs for a long time and teaching people how to train their dogs for almost as long. I've learned a lot about dogs over that time. And I've learned even more about people--about how we act and how we learn and how to read behaviors.
Sometimes in a group there's a dog, let's say a Golden Retriever (but it could be a big old Newfoundland or a lab or a mix of some kind)--it's a cute dog and it's fluffy and it always behaves for its family--not like those other dogs with their flashy teeth and their loud barking--ill-mannered dogs, always yelling. And this poor, sweet, oh-so-innocent dog, all cute and fluffy, is always getting jumped by the loud, rough dogs. There it is, just walking along and bam!--a loud, rough dog jumps it. It's a shock. Everyone is puzzled. The owner is so upset. My dog never did a thing, they say.
But here's what all that studying of dog behavior teaches you. Your poor 'innocent' dog gets jumped once--well, it probably met a mean, aggressive dog. Your dog gets jumped twice--yeah, probably still innocent. Your dog gets jumped every time it goes out on the street?
Dude, it's not the other dogs.
Just saying....
And in case this was too dog-oriented: If everyone is annoyed with you and, gosh, telling you the same thing--they are not the ones with a problem.